have_events was a map from event_id to rejection reason (or None) for events
which are in our local database. It was used as filter on the list of
event_ids being passed into get_events_as_list. However, since
get_events_as_list will ignore any event_ids that are unknown or rejected, we
can equivalently just leave it to get_events_as_list to do the filtering.
That means that we don't have to keep `have_events` up-to-date, and can use
`have_seen_events` instead of `get_seen_events_with_rejection` in the one place
we do need it.
Implement part [MSC2228](https://github.com/matrix-org/matrix-doc/pull/2228). The parts that differ are:
* the feature is hidden behind a configuration flag (`enable_ephemeral_messages`)
* self-destruction doesn't happen for state events
* only implement support for the `m.self_destruct_after` field (not the `m.self_destruct` one)
* doesn't send synthetic redactions to clients because for this specific case we consider the clients to be able to destroy an event themselves, instead we just censor it (by pruning its JSON) in the database
Purge jobs don't delete the latest event in a room in order to keep the forward extremity and not break the room. On the other hand, get_state_events, when given an at_token argument calls filter_events_for_client to know if the user can see the event that matches that (sync) token. That function uses the retention policies of the events it's given to filter out those that are too old from a client's view.
Some clients, such as Riot, when loading a room, request the list of members for the latest sync token it knows about, and get confused to the point of refusing to send any message if the server tells it that it can't get that information. This can happen very easily with the message retention feature turned on and a room with low activity so that the last event sent becomes too old according to the room's retention policy.
An easy and clean fix for that issue is to discard the room's retention policies when retrieving state.
We were doing this in a number of places which meant that some login
code paths incremented the counter multiple times.
It was also applying ratelimiting to UIA endpoints, which was probably
not intentional.
In particular, some custom auth modules were calling
`check_user_exists`, which incremented the counters, meaning that people
would fail to login sometimes.
