Currently when fetching state groups from the data store we make two
hits two the database: once for members and once for non-members (unless
request is filtered to one or the other). This adds needless load to the
datbase, so this PR refactors the lookup to make only a single database
hit.
Splits the state_group_cache in two.
One half contains normal state events; the other contains member events.
The idea is that the lazyloading common case of: "I want a subset of member events plus all of the other state" can be accomplished efficiently by splitting the cache into two, and asking for "all events" from the non-members cache, and "just these keys" from the members cache. This means we can avoid having to make DictionaryCache aware of these sort of complicated queries, whilst letting LL requests benefit from the caching.
Previously we were unable to sensibly use the caching and had to pull all state from the DB irrespective of the filtering, which made things slow. Hopefully fixes https://github.com/matrix-org/synapse/issues/3720.
