Fix bug where state cache used lots of memory

The state cache bases its size on the sum of the size of entries. The
size of the entry is calculated once on insertion, so it is important
that the size of entries does not change.

The DictionaryCache modified the entries size, which caused the state
cache to incorrectly think it was smaller than it actually was.

synapse/util/caches/dictionary_cache.py

@@ -132,9 +132,13 @@ class DictionaryCache(object):
                 self._update_or_insert(key, value, known_absent)
 
     def _update_or_insert(self, key, value, known_absent):
-        entry = self.cache.setdefault(key, DictionaryEntry(False, set(), {}))
+        # We pop and reinsert as we need to tell the cache the size may have
+        # changed
+
+        entry = self.cache.pop(key, DictionaryEntry(False, set(), {}))
         entry.value.update(value)
         entry.known_absent.update(known_absent)
+        self.cache[key] = entry
 
     def _insert(self, key, value, known_absent):
         self.cache[key] = DictionaryEntry(True, known_absent, value)

synapse/util/caches/lrucache.py

@@ -154,7 +154,7 @@ class LruCache(object):
         def cache_set(key, value, callbacks=[]):
             node = cache.get(key, None)
             if node is not None:
-                if value != node.value:
+                if node.callbacks and value != node.value:
                     for cb in node.callbacks:
                         cb()
                     node.callbacks.clear()