When _get_state_for_groups is given a wildcard filter, just do a complete
lookup. Hopefully this will give us the best of both worlds by not filling up
the ram if we only need one or two keys, but also making the cache still work
for the federation reader usecase.
The state cache bases its size on the sum of the size of entries. The
size of the entry is calculated once on insertion, so it is important
that the size of entries does not change.
The DictionaryCache modified the entries size, which caused the state
cache to incorrectly think it was smaller than it actually was.
Most of the time was spent copying a dict to filter out sentinel values
that indicated that keys did not exist in the dict. The sentinel values
were added to ensure that we cached the non-existence of keys.
By updating DictionaryCache to keep track of which keys were known to
not exist itself we can remove a dictionary copy.
Instead of calculating the size of the cache repeatedly, which can take
a long time now that it can use a callback, instead cache the size and
update that on insertion and deletion.
This requires changing the cache descriptors to have two caches, one for
pending deferreds and the other for the actual values. There's no reason
to evict from the pending deferreds as they won't take up any more
memory.
We change it so that each cache has an individual CacheMetric, instead
of having one global CacheMetric. This means that when a cache tries to
increment a counter it does not need to go through so many indirections.
