If the client failed to process incoming commands during the initial set
up of the replication connection it would immediately disconnect and
reconnect, resulting in a tightloop.
This can happen, for example, when subscribing to a stream that has a
row that is too long in the backlog.
The fix here is to not consider the connection successfully set up until
the client has succesfully subscribed and caught up with the streams.
This ensures that the retry logic timers aren't reset until then,
meaning that if an error does happen during start up the client will
continue backing off before retrying again.
Run the handlers for replication commands as background processes. This should
improve the visibility in our metrics, and reduce the number of "running db
transaction from sentinel context" warnings.
Ideally it means converting the things that fire off deferreds into the night
into things that actually return a Deferred when they are done. I've made a bit
of a stab at this, but it will probably be leaky.
