When _get_state_for_groups is given a wildcard filter, just do a complete
lookup. Hopefully this will give us the best of both worlds by not filling up
the ram if we only need one or two keys, but also making the cache still work
for the federation reader usecase.
Most of the time was spent copying a dict to filter out sentinel values
that indicated that keys did not exist in the dict. The sentinel values
were added to ensure that we cached the non-existence of keys.
By updating DictionaryCache to keep track of which keys were known to
not exist itself we can remove a dictionary copy.
