1. `federation_client.timestamp_to_event(...)` now handles all `destination` looping and uses our generic `_try_destination_list(...)` helper.
2. Consistently handling `NotRetryingDestination` and `FederationDeniedError` across `get_pdu` , backfill, and the generic `_try_destination_list` which is used for many places we use this pattern.
3. `get_pdu(...)` now returns `PulledPduInfo` so we know which `destination` we ended up pulling the PDU from
