Improve exception handling for background processes

There were a bunch of places where we fire off a process to happen in the
background, but don't have any exception handling on it - instead relying on
the unhandled error being logged when the relevent deferred gets
garbage-collected.

This is unsatisfactory for a number of reasons:
 - logging on garbage collection is best-effort and may happen some time after
   the error, if at all
 - it can be hard to figure out where the error actually happened.
 - it is logged as a scary CRITICAL error which (a) I always forget to grep for
   and (b) it's not really CRITICAL if a background process we don't care about
   fails.

So this is an attempt to add exception handling to everything we fire off into
the background.

synapse/util/logcontext.py

@@ -305,7 +305,12 @@ def run_in_background(f, *args, **kwargs):
     deferred returned by the funtion completes.
 
     Useful for wrapping functions that return a deferred which you don't yield
-    on.
+    on (for instance because you want to pass it to deferred.gatherResults()).
+
+    Note that if you completely discard the result, you should make sure that
+    `f` doesn't raise any deferred exceptions, otherwise a scary-looking
+    CRITICAL error about an unhandled error will be logged without much
+    indication about where it came from.
     """
     current = LoggingContext.current_context()
     res = f(*args, **kwargs)