Faster joins: omit partial rooms from eager syncs until the resync completes (#14870)

* Allow `AbstractSet` in `StrCollection`

Or else frozensets are excluded. This will be useful in an upcoming
commit where I plan to change a function that accepts `List[str]` to
accept `StrCollection` instead.

* `rooms_to_exclude` -> `rooms_to_exclude_globally`

I am about to make use of this exclusion mechanism to exclude rooms for
a specific user and a specific sync. This rename helps to clarify the
distinction between the global config and the rooms to exclude for a
specific sync.

* Better function names for internal sync methods

* Track a list of excluded rooms on SyncResultBuilder

I plan to feed a list of partially stated rooms for this sync to ignore

* Exclude partial state rooms during eager sync

using the mechanism established in the previous commit

* Track un-partial-state stream in sync tokens

So that we can work out which rooms have become fully-stated during a
given sync period.

* Fix mutation of `@cached` return value

This was fouling up a complement test added alongside this PR.
Excluding a room would mean the set of forgotten rooms in the cache
would be extended. This means that room could be erroneously considered
forgotten in the future.

Introduced in #12310, Synapse 1.57.0. I don't think this had any
user-visible side effects (until now).

* SyncResultBuilder: track rooms to force as newly joined

Similar plan as before. We've omitted rooms from certain sync responses;
now we establish the mechanism to reintroduce them into future syncs.

* Read new field, to present rooms as newly joined

* Force un-partial-stated rooms to be newly-joined

for eager incremental syncs only, provided they're still fully stated

* Notify user stream listeners to wake up long polling syncs

* Changelog

* Typo fix

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* Unnecessary list cast

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* Rephrase comment

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* Another comment

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* Fixup merge(?)

* Poke notifier when receiving un-partial-stated msg over replication

* Fixup merge whoops

Thanks MV :)

Co-authored-by: Mathieu Velen <mathieuv@matrix.org>

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synapse/replication/tcp/client.py

@@ -260,6 +260,7 @@ class ReplicationDataHandler:
                 self._state_storage_controller.notify_room_un_partial_stated(
                     row.room_id
                 )
+                await self.notifier.on_un_partial_stated_room(row.room_id, token)
         elif stream_name == UnPartialStatedEventStream.NAME:
             for row in rows:
                 assert isinstance(row, UnPartialStatedEventStreamRow)