Make push rules use proper structures. (#13522)

This improves load times for push rules:

| Version              | Time per user | Time for 1k users | 
| -------------------- | ------------- | ----------------- |
| Before               |       138 µs  |             138ms |
| Now (with custom)    |       2.11 µs |            2.11ms |
| Now (without custom) |       49.7 ns |           0.05 ms |

This therefore has a large impact on send times for rooms
with large numbers of local users in the room.

synapse/storage/databases/main/event_push_actions.py

@@ -74,7 +74,17 @@ receipt.
 """
 
 import logging
-from typing import TYPE_CHECKING, Dict, List, Optional, Tuple, Union, cast
+from typing import (
+    TYPE_CHECKING,
+    Collection,
+    Dict,
+    List,
+    Mapping,
+    Optional,
+    Tuple,
+    Union,
+    cast,
+)
 
 import attr
 
@@ -154,7 +164,9 @@ class NotifCounts:
     highlight_count: int = 0
 
 
-def _serialize_action(actions: List[Union[dict, str]], is_highlight: bool) -> str:
+def _serialize_action(
+    actions: Collection[Union[Mapping, str]], is_highlight: bool
+) -> str:
     """Custom serializer for actions. This allows us to "compress" common actions.
 
     We use the fact that most users have the same actions for notifs (and for
@@ -750,7 +762,7 @@ class EventPushActionsWorkerStore(ReceiptsWorkerStore, StreamWorkerStore, SQLBas
     async def add_push_actions_to_staging(
         self,
         event_id: str,
-        user_id_actions: Dict[str, List[Union[dict, str]]],
+        user_id_actions: Dict[str, Collection[Union[Mapping, str]]],
         count_as_unread: bool,
     ) -> None:
         """Add the push actions for the event to the push action staging area.
@@ -767,7 +779,7 @@ class EventPushActionsWorkerStore(ReceiptsWorkerStore, StreamWorkerStore, SQLBas
         # This is a helper function for generating the necessary tuple that
         # can be used to insert into the `event_push_actions_staging` table.
         def _gen_entry(
-            user_id: str, actions: List[Union[dict, str]]
+            user_id: str, actions: Collection[Union[Mapping, str]]
         ) -> Tuple[str, str, str, int, int, int]:
             is_highlight = 1 if _action_has_highlight(actions) else 0
             notif = 1 if "notify" in actions else 0
@@ -1410,7 +1422,7 @@ class EventPushActionsStore(EventPushActionsWorkerStore):
         ]
 
 
-def _action_has_highlight(actions: List[Union[dict, str]]) -> bool:
+def _action_has_highlight(actions: Collection[Union[Mapping, str]]) -> bool:
     for action in actions:
         if not isinstance(action, dict):
             continue