Optimise async get event lookups (#13435)

Still maintains local in memory lookup optimisation, but does any external
lookup as part of the deferred that prevents duplicate lookups for the same
event at once. This makes the assumption that fetching from an external
cache is a non-zero load operation.

synapse/storage/databases/main/roommember.py

@@ -896,7 +896,7 @@ class RoomMemberWorkerStore(EventsWorkerStore):
         # We don't update the event cache hit ratio as it completely throws off
         # the hit ratio counts. After all, we don't populate the cache if we
         # miss it here
-        event_map = await self._get_events_from_cache(
+        event_map = self._get_events_from_local_cache(
             member_event_ids, update_metrics=False
         )