Increase DB/CPU perf of _is_server_still_joined check. (#6936)

* Increase DB/CPU perf of `_is_server_still_joined` check.

For rooms with large amount of state a single user leaving could cause
us to go and load a lot of membership events and then pull out
membership state in a large number of batches.

* Newsfile

* Update synapse/storage/persist_events.py

Co-Authored-By: Richard van der Hoff <1389908+richvdh@users.noreply.github.com>

* Fix adding if too soon

* Update docstring

* Review comments

* Woops typo

Co-authored-by: Richard van der Hoff <1389908+richvdh@users.noreply.github.com>

synapse/storage/data_stores/main/roommember.py

@@ -868,6 +868,37 @@ class RoomMemberWorkerStore(EventsWorkerStore):
             desc="get_membership_from_event_ids",
         )
 
+    async def is_local_host_in_room_ignoring_users(
+        self, room_id: str, ignore_users: Collection[str]
+    ) -> bool:
+        """Check if there are any local users, excluding those in the given
+        list, in the room.
+        """
+
+        clause, args = make_in_list_sql_clause(
+            self.database_engine, "user_id", ignore_users
+        )
+
+        sql = """
+            SELECT 1 FROM local_current_membership
+            WHERE
+                room_id = ? AND membership = ?
+                AND NOT (%s)
+                LIMIT 1
+        """ % (
+            clause,
+        )
+
+        def _is_local_host_in_room_ignoring_users_txn(txn):
+            txn.execute(sql, (room_id, Membership.JOIN, *args))
+
+            return bool(txn.fetchone())
+
+        return await self.db.runInteraction(
+            "is_local_host_in_room_ignoring_users",
+            _is_local_host_in_room_ignoring_users_txn,
+        )
+
 
 class RoomMemberBackgroundUpdateStore(SQLBaseStore):
     def __init__(self, database: Database, db_conn, hs):