Avoid locking for upsert on pushers tables

* replace the upsert into deleted_pushers with an insert
* no need to lock for upsert on pusher_throttle

synapse/storage/schema/delta/46/drop_unique_deleted_pushers.sql

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+/* Copyright 2017 New Vector Ltd
+ *
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+
+-- drop the unique constraint on deleted_pushers so that we can just insert
+-- into it rather than upserting.
+
+CREATE TABLE deleted_pushers2 (
+    stream_id BIGINT NOT NULL,
+    app_id TEXT NOT NULL,
+    pushkey TEXT NOT NULL,
+    user_id TEXT NOT NULL
+);
+
+INSERT INTO deleted_pushers2 (stream_id, app_id, pushkey, user_id)
+    SELECT stream_id, app_id, pushkey, user_id from deleted_pushers;
+
+DROP TABLE deleted_pushers;
+ALTER TABLE deleted_pushers2 RENAME TO deleted_pushers;
+
+-- create the index after doing the inserts because that's more efficient.
+-- it also means we can give it the same name as the old one without renaming.
+CREATE INDEX deleted_pushers_stream_id ON deleted_pushers (stream_id);
+