Monero wallet refresh fix (#1487)

* Upgrade monero-wallet-rpc to `v0.18.3.1`

* Give feedback to user about state of monero refresh and retry if fails

This commit changes the following behaviour in the refresh functionality of the monero wallet
- Allows for multiple retries because in some cases users have experienced an issue where the wallet rpc returns `no connection to daemon` even though the daemon is available. I'm not 100% sure why this happens but retrying often fixes the issue
- Attempt to print the current sync height while the wallet is syncing. This only works to some degree because the `monero-wallet-rpc` stops responding (or takes a long time to respond) while it's refreshing
- The `monero-wallet-rpc` is started with the `--no-initial-sync` flag which ensures that as soon as it's started, it's ready to respond to requests
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Co-authored-by: Byron Hambly <bhambly@blockstream.com>
Co-authored-by: Byron Hambly <byron@hambly.dev>

swap/tests/harness/mod.rs

@@ -863,7 +863,7 @@ impl Wallet for monero::Wallet {
     type Amount = monero::Amount;
 
     async fn refresh(&self) -> Result<()> {
-        self.refresh().await?;
+        self.refresh(1).await?;
 
         Ok(())
     }