diff --git a/libretroshare/src/pqi/p3connmgr.cc b/libretroshare/src/pqi/p3connmgr.cc
index 85c1b06cc..ae5981f48 100644
--- a/libretroshare/src/pqi/p3connmgr.cc
+++ b/libretroshare/src/pqi/p3connmgr.cc
@@ -1578,14 +1578,8 @@ bool p3ConnectMgr::connectResult(std::string id, bool success, uint32_t flags, s
 		return false;
 	}
 
-        it->second.inConnAttempt = false;
-
 	if (success)
 	{
-                /* remove other attempts */
-                it->second.inConnAttempt = false;
-                netAssistFriend(id, false);
-
                 /* update address (will come although through from DISC) */
 
 #ifdef CONN_DEBUG
@@ -1600,10 +1594,16 @@ bool p3ConnectMgr::connectResult(std::string id, bool success, uint32_t flags, s
 		it->second.actions |= RS_PEER_CONNECTED;
 		it->second.lastcontact = time(NULL);  /* time of connect */
                 it->second.connecttype = flags;
+                //used to send back to the peer it's own ext address
+                it->second.currentserveraddr = remote_peer_address;
 
-                if (remote_peer_address.sin_addr.s_addr != 0
-                    && !(remote_peer_address.sin_addr.s_addr == ownState.currentlocaladdr.sin_addr.s_addr)
-                    && (!isLoopbackNet(&remote_peer_address.sin_addr))
+                //add the ip address in the address list if we were in a connect attempt and the attempt address is the same as the connect result
+                if (it->second.inConnAttempt &&
+                    it->second.currentConnAddrAttempt.addr.sin_addr.s_addr == remote_peer_address.sin_addr.s_addr &&
+                    it->second.currentConnAddrAttempt.addr.sin_port == remote_peer_address.sin_port &&
+                    remote_peer_address.sin_addr.s_addr != 0 &&
+                    !(remote_peer_address.sin_addr.s_addr == ownState.currentlocaladdr.sin_addr.s_addr) &&
+                    (!isLoopbackNet(&remote_peer_address.sin_addr))
                     ) {
                     IpAddressTimed ipLocalAddressTimed;
                     ipLocalAddressTimed.ipAddr = remote_peer_address;
@@ -1617,10 +1617,16 @@ bool p3ConnectMgr::connectResult(std::string id, bool success, uint32_t flags, s
     #endif
                 }
 
+                /* remove other attempts */
+                it->second.inConnAttempt = false;
+                it->second.connAddrs.clear();
+                netAssistFriend(id, false);
                 mStatusChanged = true;
                 return true;
         }
 
+        it->second.inConnAttempt = false;
+
 #ifdef CONN_DEBUG
 	std::cerr << "p3ConnectMgr::connectResult() Disconnect/Fail: id: " << id << std::endl;
 	std::cerr << " Success: " << success << " flags: " << flags << std::endl;
diff --git a/libretroshare/src/pqi/p3connmgr.h b/libretroshare/src/pqi/p3connmgr.h
index 9f9c4a2d5..0e81160ba 100644
--- a/libretroshare/src/pqi/p3connmgr.h
+++ b/libretroshare/src/pqi/p3connmgr.h
@@ -276,6 +276,10 @@ bool    doNextAttempt(std::string id);
 p3tunnel* 	getP3tunnel();
 void 	setP3tunnel(p3tunnel *p3tun);
 
+bool 	getUpnpExtAddress(struct sockaddr_in &addr);
+bool 	getStunExtAddress(struct sockaddr_in &addr);
+bool 	getExtFinderExtAddress(struct sockaddr_in &addr);
+
 
 protected:
 	/****************** Internal Interface *******************/
@@ -346,10 +350,6 @@ void 	tickMonitors();
 bool	retryConnectTCP(std::string id);
 bool	retryConnectNotify(std::string id);
 
-bool 	getUpnpExtAddress(struct sockaddr_in &addr);
-bool 	getStunExtAddress(struct sockaddr_in &addr);
-bool 	getExtFinderExtAddress(struct sockaddr_in &addr);
-
 	/* temporary for testing */
 //virtual void 	loadConfiguration() { return; }
 
@@ -421,11 +421,13 @@ private:
 	bool oldnetFlagStunOk;
 	bool oldnetFlagExtraAddressCheckOk;
 
+public:
+        peerConnectState ownState;
+
 protected:
 
 void addPeer(std::string id, std::string name); /* tmp fn */
 
-	peerConnectState ownState;
 
 	std::list<std::string> mStunList;
 	std::map<std::string, peerConnectState> mFriendList;
diff --git a/libretroshare/src/services/p3disc.cc b/libretroshare/src/services/p3disc.cc
index 84198fa0a..08bfdb6b0 100644
--- a/libretroshare/src/services/p3disc.cc
+++ b/libretroshare/src/services/p3disc.cc
@@ -235,10 +235,10 @@ void p3disc::statusChange(const std::list<pqipeer> &plist)
 		if ((pit->state & RS_PEER_S_FRIEND) &&
 			(pit->actions & RS_PEER_CONNECTED))
 		{
-			/* send our details to them */
-			sendOwnDetails(pit->id);
                         /* send their own details to them. Usefull for ext ip address detection */
                         sendPeerDetails(pit->id, pit->id);
+                        /* send our details to them */
+			sendOwnDetails(pit->id);
 		}
 	}
 }
@@ -761,7 +761,24 @@ void p3disc::recvPeerFriendMsg(RsDiscReply *item)
         /* send Own Ip list to connect manager. It will extract the external ip address from it */
         if (peerId == mConnMgr->getOwnId())
         {
+                //setAddressList might also set our own external address
                 mConnMgr->setAddressList(mConnMgr->getOwnId(), item->ipAddressList);
+
+                if (item->currentsaddr.sin_addr.s_addr != 0 && item->currentsaddr.sin_port != 0 &&
+                    item->currentsaddr.sin_addr.s_addr != 1 && item->currentsaddr.sin_port != 1 &&
+                    std::string(inet_ntoa(item->currentsaddr.sin_addr)) != "1.1.1.1" &&
+                    (!isLoopbackNet(&item->currentsaddr.sin_addr)) &&
+                    (!isPrivateNet(&item->currentsaddr.sin_addr))
+                    ) {
+                    //the current server address given by the peer looks nice, let's use it for our own ext address if needed
+                    sockaddr_in tempAddr;
+                    if (!mConnMgr->getExtFinderExtAddress(tempAddr) && !mConnMgr->getUpnpExtAddress(tempAddr)) {
+                        //don't change the port, just the ip
+                        item->currentsaddr.sin_port = mConnMgr->ownState.currentserveraddr.sin_port;
+                        mConnMgr->setExtAddress(mConnMgr->getOwnId(), item->currentsaddr);
+                    }
+                }
+
         }